• You never know who’s life you are going to change when you share your story
• You don’t know what you don’t know 
• There are 64,000 events in North America every day
• The speaking business used to be a shark eat shark industry – today there are coaches and mentors that can cut your learning by 1/2 or 2/3 
• A speaking business is a business – it takes a lot of work and patience
• Never give up – No matter what state stay the course

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Who is Orly Amor?

Business Coach for Public Speakers and Entrepreneurs, Public Speaker, Networking Expert, and Bestselling Author

Orly is a successful entrepreneur who has started five companies. As a corporate trainer, bestselling author, and international public speaker she has helped over 200,000 entrepreneurs around the world maximize their bottom line by tripling and
quadrupling their sales.

Orly Amor always enjoyed speaking and helping people change their lives and impact their
circle of influence wherever they go. She was in Property Management for 25 years where she
quickly established herself as a Subject Matter Expert; publishing two books on the subject and
speaking on numerous occasions, but she did not feel that she was having an impact.

In 2006, Orly was asked to speak at a women’s shelter on her life experiences and originally declined the invitation. After being invited several times she finally relented and agreed to speak. It was there she met a woman who wanted to end her life. After hearing Orly speak the woman decided to live and asked Orly to support her. This was the impact Orly was looking for.

Since then, Orly dedicated her life to impacting the lives of 200,000,000 people by helping them
realize their own mission-based goals and dreams. Her extensive experience as a Certified
Behavioral Analyst has made her indispensable as a coach to many influential corporate leaders.

Orly speaks three languages fluently and has earned her MBA and Law Degree. Despite the
impressive education and success as a business woman, Orly remains remarkably humble, authentic and a very engaging speaker.

In addition to being a great public speaker herself, and a great networker for the past ten years, she has helped Public Speakers and Entrepreneurs create their Business Model for Public Speaking. Her gift is to show them how to monetize their craft by taking it seriously and having what she calls “Business in A Box for Public Speakers.” Thereby teaching them how to fish.

Orly recently Published a Book called ‘Public Speakers, You’re Not All That’ – 12 Reasons Why
Event Planners Won’t Hire You, that became an instant Bestseller. Now available on amazon.
In a Nutshell, Orly Amor Delivers!

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Below is the full transcript from the show with Ayelet Baron. Please note that there may be some errors as it was auto transcribed using Otter.ai. (referral link that provides us with a 1-month Premium Pass

Tim McDonald 0:03
All right, well welcome everybody to the business of speaking show. I am your host, Tim McDonald, and today joined by my special guest, Orly Amor. How’re you doing?

Orly Amor 0:13
I’m great. Thank you for having me.

Tim McDonald 0:15
Oh, no, I’m so glad to have you here and can’t wait to dive into your story a little bit more. But, you know, just to set the stage for anybody watching, you know, the business speaking show is not really a show that we feature speakers, and what they talk about on the stage, but really about how they got started on their journey to the stage, what they’ve learned along the path to get being on the stage. And so if you are thinking about getting involved in a speaker, you know, you are a speaker, just getting going and want to really grow your career, or as 2020 has taught us, no matter what we think we know about what’s happening, things can change on an instance notice. So it’s really for anybody in the speaking industry or interested in the speaking industry, but really geared towards those either thinking about getting started, or just getting started. So with that, before we dive into the beginning of your story, why don’t you tell us a little bit about, you know, what your career looks like? Now, what you talk about some of the major accomplishments that you’ve had?

Orly Amor 1:19
Well, that’s a loaded question. But thank you for asking. Well, a lot of things have happened. And I know as much as not everybody has been ready for what happened with COVID. This year, I got busier, on on the speaking circuit as virtually as well, as I published a book in 2019, called public speakers, you’re not all that 12 reasons why event planners won’t hire you, I had interviewed 3400 event planners that pay speakers for that book. So it’s a major accomplishment. And it can help everyone in anyone today and tomorrow and for many years to come. And I’ve also spoken virtually to an event that was International, that was really cool. It was a nine and a half hour event. And it was in 115 countries and 30 million people were watching. So I feel like that’s a big accomplishment. And I mean, it’s been just an amazing journey, meeting a lot of speakers who are getting out there, and just really amazing stuff is happening. So I’m closer to my goal of impacting the lives of 200 million people around the planet by 2025. So I’m really excited about that.

Tim McDonald 2:36
That is wonderful and amazing. So congrats on everything that you’re doing, and getting closer to that goal.

Orly Amor 2:44
Oh, purpose.

Tim McDonald 2:47
So tell us, you know, now that we know kind of where you’re at and what you’ve You know, you’re done and where you’re heading. Tell us how did this all start for you? How did you get involved in actually speaking?

Orly Amor 2:59
Well, I was in property management for a very long time. And I was already speaking in that realm. And I never really wanted to tell my personal story. And one day, my girlfriend asked me to speak at a woman’s shelter. And I said, Well, what do you want me to speak about I? There’s nothing I could speak to these people about them in property management. She said, Well, I want you to come and tell your story. Long story short, she was after me for about three weeks. And finally I relented, and I spoke at this woman’s shelter. A few months later, I had her I had hired a coach, because motivational speaking was not my thing. I was following Tony Robbins and other people, but it was for my own healing and my own growth, not to speak. And it was very funny and not funny. But Haha, kind of funny. It was more the fact that I met a woman that wanted to end her life that day. And after hearing me speak, she decided to live and asked me to show her how that’s when I realized the power of sharing your own story. And just to sharing with you where I have been, or where my story is, in 18 seconds or less. I know we’re pressed for time. But I was a big enough child that was molested four times before the age of 14, I was raped three times before the age of 22. Twice gang raped nine months left for dead nine months apart. Also, I was married to a very abusive husband. And as a result of all that I had four abortions and gained a moment more than the amount of weight I was 428 pounds with my heaviest. So to say the least I did not have any worse or better story than anyone that was in that audience. And that’s why I didn’t feel like sharing my story was a big deal. And so then I realized how powerful is it to share our story. And in that act of sharing their contribution. You just never know whose life you’re going to change. And then I realized my real mission in life is to impact people’s lives and share with the world. So that’s where it’s at. If you will, I wanted to just do that for the rest of my life.

Tim McDonald 5:05
Now, that is so amazing. And I believe in that so much myself about the power of story and how we share our own and how it can impact others. So it’s great that you had that moment. I’m kind of curious, I’m guessing, I don’t want to I hate it, you know, assuming things but I’m guessing that that speaking gig probably didn’t pay you.

Orly Amor 5:28
That speaking gig did not pay me. And but we talked but I was always paid on the property management side. And then I got I got certified as a behavior analyst, and I was teaching networking in corporations. And I was also teaching in corporations how to close the deal 98% of the time through profiling. So that was my those are more my biggest topics. And then mindset mastery became another topic. And for those I’ve always been paid. So for many, many years, I have always been paid to speak until 2010. I was invited to speak in Arlington, Texas. And I’m, by the way, I have been to 26 countries, 18 states, and I’ve always been paid to speak. So this is a journey of where I ended up speaking in Arlington, Texas. And it was a big convention, a business convention. And these three speakers came over to me in the break room for speakers. And they just said, aren’t you Orly Amor? I said, Yes. Do I know you? I’m sorry. I don’t remember. They said, No, we we never met before, but we’ve seen you on the circuit. I said, Oh, okay, great. So we just introduced ourselves started networking, and at 1.1 of them said to me, I’m just curious, how did you get this gig? I said, I don’t know. I called I told them what I speak about, they paid me and I’m here. They all looked at me. Like if I had three heads, you got paid off like, oops, um, you guys didn’t. They said, No, we got our expenses paid. But we net we didn’t get paid. I said, Oh, no, no, I got paid. And I got my expenses paid. And they said, Well, we want to know how you did that. And jokingly I sorted Tim, I didn’t even know what to say. But jokingly I said, Well, you know, if I tell you, I’m going to have to charge you. But I was just kidding. And before I could say Just kidding. We said okay, maybe your price. And I’m like what? Let me get back to you on that. Because I have no idea what you’re talking about. What do you mean, you didn’t get paid? I was so upset, actually. Because I am more about a fairness. And I didn’t know until them you know, you don’t know what you don’t know. Until that moment. I did not know that speakers did not get paid. That was my What? What do you mean? Do it like aha moments, right. And when I went home from that event, I realized there’s a problem in this industry. And I sat down and I wrote what is called today the business in a box for public speakers, because I did not know that people did not get paid.

Tim McDonald 8:01
Wow. Oh, as somebody who started my speaking career, almost 11 years ago, I have done my fair share of not getting paid speaking, especially in the early days.

Orly Amor 8:17
And there’s so many like that. And some of them are told not to not to get paid in the beginning of their career. I don’t believe that. I’m sorry to say it that way. But I don’t believe that it’s a myth. There’s a few myths out there. I just don’t I believe that if you have a message, somebody is willing to pay for it. A few statistics, it’s 100 billion dollar a year industry. Why wouldn’t you get paid 64,000 events a day in America alone, Canada and the United States pay speakers every single day? And they did not vanish? Because of covid 19. So where did they go? Right? Everybody’s probably asking that question.

Tim McDonald 8:58
Well, let’s get back to that. But I’m kind of curious. Because I’m, I just want to make sure I understand the timeline here. You were in property management. And you did give some talks and and, and so but those weren’t, they were paid. But were you getting paid as the property manager and your salary or getting paid with the from the events that you were speaking at?

Orly Amor 9:19
No, I was paid from the events that I was speaking at. So I had a company for property management, but it was I had employees and so that was taken care of, then I was being called by different associations all over the country. That’s how I did the 18 states because people knew who I was. And I changed the law in the state of Florida. I mean, I did many amazing things in the property management field, that I was being called to speak in different places. And I wrote a couple of books on the subject matter and yeah, so no, I was being paid very handsomely. Thank you.

Tim McDonald 9:52
Well, that’s good. That’s great. Um, so I’m just kind of curious when you know, how did you get that first opportunity to To speak on, you know, back in those days, I mean, what was it like? And I mean, did you search it out? Knowing that’s what you wanted to do? Or was? Did somebody just come to you and say, Hey, we’d really like you to come speak or leave?

Orly Amor 10:12
So that’s a great question. Because many people say, used to ask me to follow me for one day. And I would tell them that that would be the most boring day of their life in the old days, because in the old days, we had to pick up the phone and call cold call. So I used to sit at my, at my desk, almost 12 to 16 hours a day making phone calls cold calling, and emailing. I mean, it was all very old stuff. You know, I mean, really old computers, we used to use Lotus 123. In the days that I started speaking, do you know how old I am? 53. So

Tim McDonald 10:49
I remember that, too. So I think we’re in the same room.

Orly Amor 10:54
Nice. So, um, you know, in the, in those days, it was a lot harder to find gigs. But there were also fewer speakers. Things have changed. But yes, I had to do it myself manually and find out everything by myself. In the beginning, it was very, very challenging, because I had to learn everything on my own, nobody would teach you nobody would share their information in you know, just like they used to call corporate world, you know, sharks, the shark, you know, being sharks in corporate? Well, it was it’s the same in any event wasn’t the same in every industry, nobody would share their information. Nobody would help you in anything you want to make you want to make it in this business good. Go find out how to do it by yourself, nobody’s going to help you. It’s not like today, when we have coaches and mentors and people, you can actually help you learn the, you know, cut the curving the learning curve in half or two thirds, etc.

Tim McDonald 11:57
So how did you know before you started making those calls for 12-16 hours a day? I mean, how did you know this was what you wanted to do?

Orly Amor 12:05
Um, I fell in love with public speaking. I think in the beginning, it was more of an ego thing. I just enjoyed the rush of being on a stage and, and, and enjoying people coming afterwards and telling me how great they are, how important it was that they came and how, how much they got out of it, or how good I did. It was fun to hear that it was beating it was boosting my morale. Because, you know, in property management, especially, I used to get off the stage and like, Oh, Mr. Moore, we have problems in our associations or not in our board of directors, there’s always one person that doesn’t do doesn’t want to vote and doesn’t want to do and Bob, I was always problems, problems, problems. And then I go to this women’s shelter, and everybody’s hugging me and thanking me for coming. It was such a culture shock that I was like, No, I think I like the hugs better. I think I like that. The people hugging me and thanking me for coming and sharing. I think I want to do that more. There was just bad really, that I knew that I wanted to be in front of a crowd. I like to sing. So I was like, okay, public speaking just gives you the same height, I think I’m gonna like enjoy this too.

Tim McDonald 13:18
Now, that’s, that’s wonderful. And I’m just kind of curious. I mean, you make it sound like it, you know, it was obviously a lot of work. But it You make it sound like it was just so natural and easy for you to kind of get these gigs, obviously, by making all these calls. Can you give us an idea about you know, what was the process like from when you first started making those calls to actually getting, you know, speaking gigs and, you know, really feeling the results of what you were looking to achieve?

Orly Amor 13:50
I would tell you that the first three months, I just wanted to shoot myself. Because at the end of the three months, I did not get anything, I was really just making a lot of calls and a lot of people would not get back to you and a lot of people will, you know will say oh, well how long have you been speaking and I would have to say a year you know, it was very hard. In the beginning. I didn’t know what to say. And I didn’t know how to talk and I didn’t know how to deal with rebuttals. So it was everything to learn as you go. Okay, so next time Let me try this thing or let me try this script. And let me tell you so it’s, it’s like you you you know, you’re a friend of mine really likes it. His name is Benji, he likes to to talk about the boxer in the ring. You know, like if he ever started just boxing. He would learn after having a black guy how to move his head so he doesn’t get another black guy right. Basically, you learn as you go, but learning the hard way. This is what happened to me. I learned how to tweak my script how to how to deal with rebuttals, how to answer positively how to build those relationships and how to never close the door and never hang up saying Oh, okay, thank you. Bye bye. No, it wasn’t never thank you. When, when, when is your next event? What can I How can I get on your list? How can I? How can I continue this conversation and I have to basically just ask the questions and being vulnerable with these events lenders, so that I can learn from them instead of being the beggar for a gig. And that is how I learned and how I tweaked. So the first three months of 12 to 16 hours a day, were many, many calls where I did not even know what I was doing. But after a while, I got some gigs. And I did get some gigs during those three months, but they were for later. So now what, and then I didn’t ask for the deposit. And I didn’t ask for certain things. And then they would ask me for something and I didn’t have it. And when I sent it, it wasn’t in the right format. And oh, my goodness, then I was, Oh, well, what do I do now? Like, where do I get that? And so it took a while. And so when people now ask me to show them or do it for them? It’s like, Okay, do you understand how much work goes into? Right? I mean, not sure I learned it overnight. It didn’t take long at all. No, it was a lot of work. And so this business is really a business. And that’s what people need to understand. Really, it does take a while. And you got to have patience, though. Because I’m sorry, I’m gonna say it this way, but you don’t sleep with every person you meet. You know, you don’t go on a first date and say, Okay, well, unless it’s your thing. But at the end of the day, you got to build that relationship, the know, like trust and, and get to know people a little better on a on a deeper level before you get into this relationship, that it’s your friendship even right? You don’t call everybody your friend, because they’re not you don’t know anything about them. So it’s the same principle.

Tim McDonald 16:52
Well, I so appreciate you opening up and sharing that because I am not a believer in an easy button that everybody has this overnight success. And I, I want people to understand that there’s work that goes into this. I’m kind of curious about your mindset, though. Because three months of 12 to 16 hours a day of making calls, how did you go through each day and get up the next day and say, This is what I’m gonna do again, and again, and again.

Orly Amor 17:27
buckling down is not easy. Not even for me, I’m ADHD, like, I need to get up and do and, and I lived in a beautiful house that has a pool. And the fridge was not far, it wasn’t the hardest thing I’ve ever live in Florida. So you can only imagine how much I wanted to go outside by the pool. Um, and I say I say this with love, because you understand now how even harder it was. You see, I live in Brooklyn now. So it’s easier to say, Oh, yeah, sure. I don’t want to go outside. But it was in a very beautiful place. And I will tell you that you have to have a focused mission. And my focused mission was to impact people’s lives. If it wasn’t for my mission, then I don’t think I would have made it. I’m like, do I really want to do this? How badly do you want this early every morning? How badly do you want to get on stages early? How badly do you want this early? I have to talk to myself every day in the mirror. So do you want to do this? You’re sure you want to do this? Are you sure? How Sure. are you today? How are you sure? Is it 90%? Is it 80%? You better get to 100 really quickly or else you’re not gonna sit in that chair. And I used to really talk to me, this is how I used to mindset talk to myself. Yeah, like people talk to me and say, you talk to yourself. Yeah, I talk to myself, I like to talk to someone intelligent for a change. I’m just kidding. But you know, like, of course, I’m going to tell myself that you better buckle down. You can’t be any better a coach than yourself. Because you can have 100 coaches right now, and you should have coaches. But at the end of the day, you’re the only one that’s gonna push yourself out of bed and get ready for the day. Oh, and by the way, I never worked in my pajamas. I never I got up, I did the shower. I got dressed. My hair was done makeup on beautiful clothes on, like, and I sat at the chair, like if I was going to an office. And I didn’t like every day was like, Okay, is there a camera following me? I do that for other projects that even today, if I have a project, I’ll get up and do exactly that and feel like there’s a camera following me. What if I was on TV for 24 hours? What would they say? What would they see? Am I doing what I’m supposed to be doing for my goals? And that’s how I treated myself every single day. It was hard. I’m not going to tell you it was easy. That’s for sure. It was not. It was a battle every day. It’s a going on diet. Oh mg. I mean I lost 230 pounds. I get value. It was like doing that. It was like, oh, Lord, every day, it’s a, it’s a struggle. It’s it’s a, it’s a commitment. It’s a big commitment to yourself, it’s even worse, because it’s a commitment to yourself, you can actually cheat anytime you like, you can do whatever, whenever nobody’s You know, there’s not a clock on you. There’s no Boss, I didn’t have a boss. You know, I didn’t need to do it. If I didn’t want to, I could have just not done it. I had the money to sustain myself. I mean, basically, if I wanted to do just go back to property management, but I said no, no, no, don’t want to go to property management ever again. No, no, no, I don’t want to work. That was work. Imagine that. That was work, instead of sitting at a computer for 12 to 16 hours and making phone calls. That was not work. Oh, boy, I had to really convince myself this is it? That’s that’s the fashion, you know?

Tim McDonald 20:53
Well, I know, you mentioned that. A lot of this, especially when you first started was you having to learn on your own because there wasn’t additional resources out there. along your path. Have you found other resources or other ways that you can learn from others and, you know, take ideas and continually kind of evolve and improve your business.

Orly Amor 21:18
Um, the time that I was already successful, and by successful is multiple, six figures in this business, I had people coming to me. So the resources were just, if you will have already cut the learning curve. So I already reduced my 12 to 16 hours to about two hours a day. So at that point, I didn’t feel like I needed other resources. What I, when I really say to people is now that there’s resources, there’s everywhere resources. But what is not available until today is your commitment to this business. It is a business. And thinking of it as a business, Tim is I’d like to give the analogy of a store like you and I are best friends, right. And we have an amazing friend who’s a real estate agent, and she found us the best location for our brick and mortar store. So we’re going to need the the key to the front door, we’re going to need the Hours of operation on the door, we’re going to need the name of the store on top of the door. When we go inside, we might need an alarm system or a camera system a cash register one of those computers iPads for for processing credit cards, we’re going to need insurance and maybe a liability insurance, a bank account, and we’re gonna hire a bookkeeper because you and I don’t like to do that job. Okay. But did I tell you what we’re selling? No. That’s the business of public speaking because the product is you. So if you don’t have the commitment to your own store, are you going to open every day? Are you going to open it for two hours? Three hours, four hours? What do you What’s your operating hours? Really? So if that’s that’s the business side, if you if you don’t understand that you will never make it in this business? Because that commitment is daily, not? Oh, I don’t know. I feel like doing it today. Maybe tomorrow? Or maybe they’ll call me. Yeah, no, not today. People won’t call you. Weird. You know what I mean? It’s, it has shifted so much. 10 years before COVID. And now completely. So 180?

Tim McDonald 23:24
Well, I know we’re kind of wrapping up on our time here. But one question I love asking it and I I’m really interested in what you would have to say on this is knowing what you know. Now, if you could go back to yourself when you first started. What’s one piece of advice that you would give your younger self?

Orly Amor 23:45
Never give up… Never give up. No matter what state stay the course. stay in your lane. stay the course. Because there’s a lot of naysayers and a lot of people that say what are you doing? Are you crazy? No. So many people say to me, come out with us. Go you never come out with us. You never come for a drink. You never come to you. You’re not even coming to my birthday lab, blah, blah. And I’m like, No, I’m sorry, I got to work. I got to work. I got to work whether I had a boss, no boss, whatever. I had to stay the course or else because those people will not live my dreams. Give me my dreams, you know, so just stay the course and stay focused. Never give up.

Tim McDonald 24:23
Oh, fantastic. Thank you so much early and please let our watchers know how they can get in touch with you where they can find you.

Orly Amor 24:34
All right. Basically Orly Amor dot com. Very simple. That’s my website, OrlyAmore.com. And they can also email me at Orly at OrlyAmor.com, and my phone number is right there so 917-515-6803 and they can text call anytime.

Tim McDonald 24:53
I love that you give your phone number out to I’m a big believer in that myself. Well, and if you’re watching, I just want to let you know that even though we’re going to end the youtube broadcast, Orly is agreed to stay on with me and record one additional question and that question won’t ever be found on YouTube. But it will be found if you sign up for our newsletter if you go to speaking dot business and just sign up for our weekly newsletter. This is exclusive content that only goes out to our email subscribers. So we hope to see you there. Thank you for watching and thank you for joining us Orly.

Orly Amor 25:32
Thank you for having me.

 

• When you put yourself in situations to get up in front of a room, it can lead to you becoming the speaker 
• You don’t have to intend on becoming a speaking if you have the ability and willingness to share your knowledge
• What people say to you after you talk can have a larger impact than what you say on stage
• If you like dialogue, workshops can be more rewarding than delivering keynotes  
• Being willing to talk from your heart also means you have to accept the fact you may not be invited back
• Relationships, trust and community are the new/old marketing

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Author · Healer · Global Futurist

Through masterfully facilitated guided sessions, books and talks, Ayelet Baron assists people around the globe in their transition to living a healthy life. Recognized as one of the top 50 global female futurists by Forbes, she has been described as a force of nature when it comes to envisioning a more humane world. Her work has been inspired by futurist Buckminster Fuller, who reminds us that “We are called to be the architects of the future, not its victims.”

After a very successful career in the Silicon Valley as a global strategist working in every corner of the world, Ayelet chose to write the books she wished had when she started on her journey of becoming a conscious architect. Ayelet is passionate about driving sustainable change and being of service to the next generation of healthy creators. She now offers guidance to those who are ready to trek into the unknown through her writing, guided sessions and custom project work.

She is a designer + strategist dedicated to the evolution of the next generation of conscious leaders. Integrating humanities, behavioral science and evolutionary strategy, she envisions a world where people matter and business plays a greater role in societal value. She has worked with leaders within Fortune 100 organizations, leading NGOs and startups. Ayelet has been designing experiences, keynote speaking, and facilitating leadership sessions for decades and has worked in over 100 countries as a global technology executive.

What makes her approach unique, is her personal story of seeking the truth. To that extent, she has worked to gain clarity and ground herself in the reality of doing the right thing for herself and her community. She shares her story openly so others can learn from her lessons and apply it to themselves.

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Tim McDonald 0:00
All right, welcome everybody to the business of speaking show, I am your host, Tim McDonald. And I am joined by my very dear friend, Ayelet Baron, how are you?

Ayelet Baron 0:10
I’m doing great look at look at where I am and my imagination.

Tim McDonald 0:16
But looks like you’re actually there. The wind blowing and the waves coming up on the beach all together at once. So for those of you who may not know, what the business is speaking show is it’s really a show where I have the opportunity to interview speakers, not on what they talk about on the stage, but their journey of how they got there, and what they’ve learned ever since. So, with that, getting started, let’s have you, Ayelet. I don’t think I’ve ever talked to you about this out of all the things we talked about. Tell us your story of how you got started speaking?

Ayelet Baron 0:50
Well, I think you don’t mean when I was two or three years old, right?

Tim McDonald 0:54
Not like language, but you know, like kind of getting up in front of people on stage who most of us talk about speaking in this industry.

Ayelet Baron 1:04
I know, but I can’t start something with you without a laugh. Um, for me, it was when I fired myself from my PhD program. And I started working in market research, doing a lot of public opinion polling in the beginning for the national newspaper in Canada, and then I decided to do a career transition and got into consulting around organizational change internal communication and culture. And I wasn’t getting everything I needed from my work. So I decided to join an industry association. And when I started, I didn’t realize that I would end up being the president of the association’s largest chapter. And it forced me every lunch, to introduce the speakers, and to get up and talk in front of a crowd. And as I started doing it, I soon transformed into being a speaker, both in Canada, and then internationally as well. So it was never kind of like an intention to do it. But it was just an ability to share information and and address things that I had a lot of knowledge about.

Tim McDonald 2:16
Yeah, it’s kind of interesting. That’s what I’m picking up a trend that nobody I think starts out Well, I shouldn’t say nobody, because I’m sure there’s gonna be somebody, it’s gonna surprise me, but almost nobody talks about it. I knew from the time I was very young, that I wanted to be a speaker and nothing else. So tell us, um, you know, what, what was it like? Um, because I know, you know, from my experience, at least, getting up in front of a group of people and, you know, introducing somebody else, or, you know, talking about a topic that’s work related in a meeting or something like that is much different, I think, than getting up in front of a stage where you’re the one where all the eyes are focused on and can you do you remember that first time that you did that? And what was that? What were you feeling? What was that? Like?

Ayelet Baron 3:10
I was feeling amazement, because for people who know me, they’ll be shocked to know that I was really shy when I was young. And I would have like to convince myself to go into a store and to buy something, it took a lot of courage for me to do those things. Because I was incredibly shy, I’m, you might be surprised that I was shy as well, Tim. Um, and so you know, the first step of getting up and introducing other people was to get over that terrifying fear of shyness that I had, about realizing that I have this voice. And the first time I was there, it was I was like, I was like watching myself and going, I can’t believe that, you know, we can really do what we set our minds to do and get over ourselves. And it was a really amazing experience. Not because I got up and to speak, it was because of the conversations I had afterwards. The people who came to engage with me, not while I was on stage, but afterwards and telling them what the talk did for them. And, you know, we got to co create after that, and doing that, like really early on. I also started doing a lot of workshops, I had a specialization in in metrics and measurement as well. And so we do a lot of workshops on that. And I actually enjoyed that a lot more because I got to have dialogue and to really listen to people’s questions rather than to stand on the stage and talk ironically, if I had completed my PhD, if I had done my dissertation, I would be standing in front of people teaching, which I had to do during, you know, my math when I served for my masters and my doctor as well. I was teaching so I was standing in front of people and talking but it was a very different experience. Have not feeling like I was the lecture I was the teacher and stepping into these big shoes that I felt that speakers have in the world.

Tim McDonald 5:10
Yeah, it’s interesting is, you know, I’m listening about the, you know, wasn’t so much what you said up on the stage, but what happened after you got off the stage? And how have you kind of used that, and, you know, had it work for you, so that you got more of that instead of just being, you know, the person that everybody is listening to?

Ayelet Baron 5:34
Well, I think, um, I remember, I’m a talk I did in, in Mexico, which is probably where this picture is, I don’t know, in front of 500 people, and I just, as I walked up to speak, my necklace, which was totally closed in a clasp fell into my hand, and I, you know, I had, I had the audio on, like, like you and I was ready to go on, there are 500 people there sitting in waiting, and all of a sudden my necklace like, and I had no time to pause and to say what has happened. And what I felt at that point, when I look back at it, it was like the universe telling me that was time to get my voice out. And when I took that stage, I just let myself go. And right afterwards, this guy came up to me and said, You know, I thought you were just going to be one of these other speakers that comes from a corporate background that’s going to tell me all this stuff. And I was sitting back and I was really skeptical. And then you started talking and I was just like, oh my god, she speaks my language, she’s talking about things that are relevant to me, I can relate to this. It’s not just like propaganda, or, you know, a canned speech or something. It’s really real. And it was interesting, he then followed up with an email. And I actually captured something that he wrote about fear in my book, our journey to corporate sanity. And so like from that, that little moment of that talk, I have something now that is part of a book that I wrote. And then he also was doing some work, and I helped him, you know, I didn’t charge him or anything, but I just worked with him on an idea that he had and connected him with people that I thought would be valuable for him. And I have so many stories like this, this is just like one example. But it’s it’s about being able to touch people in this way that really makes it important to me, rather than, you know, my the most popular speaker my the most loved or the most liked. It’s it’s about making an impact.

Tim McDonald 7:45
One and how has that kind of evolved, ever since that moment, when you had that realization for you.

Ayelet Baron 7:56
It actually freed me quite a bit. And I remember, I got invited to speak at this very conservative organization. And I asked them multiple times if they’re ready for me. And, and they said yes, but I didn’t realize that one of the reasons they invited me to speak as a futurist was to be a shock factor for their boss. And instead of like, I love the fact that I didn’t know it. And I could just really be factual and talk about things that are coming and things that people need to be aware of, and not be bound by the fact that, Oh, I’m getting paid for this. So I have to say what they want me to say. And, and being very clear that what I bring is very different than then what most people bring, because I don’t think we’re gonna shift unless we start saying what’s truly in our hearts. And I think that a lot of things that are really important is our ability to find our voice. And if my being up there encourages, you know, hundred, 200, 500 or one person to find their voice and to come into work the next day, and be able to be, you know, a more healthy person, then I’ve done my work. I may not be invited back again, but that’s okay.

Tim McDonald 9:22
Well, and I know, I know, just based upon some conversations that you and I have had that you have actually mentioned, and I don’t know if this whole still holds true or not, but that your goal was not to be a speaker and travel and get on stages. And so how do you have a speaking business? How do you get that message out? How do you connect with people if you’re not traveling and getting up on stages?

Ayelet Baron 9:46
Well, my dream has always been to be an author. And I actually went the other route. I became a speaker before before I started writing, and so I’ve been putting on a little bit of a pause For the last probably the last eight months, and really focusing on the writing and hoping that once my, my triplets, my book series comes out in the fall of 2020, then I could stop come in and speak again and again, the world has changed. So being able to do it virtually being able to do it, I’d love to, like have more dialogue, and and really take an issue and talk to people and understand what their problems and opportunities are. Because one of the things that I’m bringing into the world is, you know, we need to step away from the problem/solution mindset, and really move into opportunity creators. So once I get these books out, I’m going to be going out into the world and saying here, I’m available to come and talk about how we look at opportunities, how do we really lead in the 21st century, in a conscious way, and understand that leadership is not outside ourselves. So the second book is really about trekking into the unknown, and I’m living it in every possible way right now. So it would be great to come back on the show, you know, like a year from now and truly answer that question for you about what I did. Because right now, I’m super excited to just trek into the unknown. Without a manual without, you know, a lot of people just it’s kind of wonderful and crazy, a lot of people kind of find me in, you know, in working right now to figure out how to get these books out to the people that are ready for them, which is very non traditional, than just rather like getting out a book because I’ve written a book for the human soul. And so there’s not like, a cookie cutter way to get it out. And I think that will help me with partnership with people like you and other people out there, that we can get our messages out, which is why I love what you’re doing here. And believe in it. So I think again, you know, I I’ve been very blessed. I’ve worked in over 100 countries around the world. And you know, whether I got to speak as a as a business of you defining it, but I you know, when I was a corporate executive, I spoke a lot and company events and, and internally, and I guess I got paid for it because I was an employee. So I don’t know what your qualification is. But I’ve always been very bold and very fearless. Because I think that, you know, our time on earth is very precious. And we came here to really create. And and that’s what it’s all about. So a year from now, I might be able to answer your question, but right now, I’m tracking into the unknown, trusting my heart and discovering, you know, the wonder of me. So we can discover the wonder of everybody and really shift things on this planet in a really healthy way.

Tim McDonald 13:02
So I, you know, as, and I, by the way, I just, you know, I just love and adore all that and you. But I’m just, you know, as I’m listening, and I relate it to what I’ve seen and heard from so many others, if they’re talking about like, you know, if you’re a speaker, if you want to be a speaker, write a book, right? And I’m hearing you that you were a speaker, you’re not writing the book to get more speaking. But you’ve kind of put that on pause while you’re writing the book. But how does that? I mean, how do you kind of envision I know it’s unknown? And I know you don’t know exactly, but how is it kind of been like, you know, or what’s your thoughts on how that relates to, you know, how you market the book, right? How you get the book to more people through speaking, and how, how they book actually helps you get more speaking, because it sounds like in the past, you’ve always had opportunities that have presented themselves to you because of what you’ve done. And it sounds like that’s the same approach that you’re trusting yourself with moving forward.

Ayelet Baron 14:06
Yeah, I think I’ve been published quite a bit before, like, even my book, but because I was like really busy working in corporate, I didn’t have time to write the book. I was too busy working.

Tim McDonald 14:20
And wait, this isn’t work? writing a book is not work?

Ayelet Baron 14:25
It is the hardest work I’ve ever done in my life. And, and things are just coming out really quickly. But I think I think again, I’m not your traditional person. I don’t you know, I put down the manual of success. I’ve actually had a little burning ceremony of it as well. And, and I’m really looking at ways like, you know, I’m reaching out to people, and it’s amazing. I look at who I’m starting to connect with out in the world from a heart base and who I want to also work with And connect with the work that I’m creating. Because it’s not for everyone. You know, it’s not, it’s not something that will appeal to everybody, I’m really looking for the people that are and the companies that really want to look at opportunities and are willing to take risks and do things in a much healthier way than today. Because, you know, to me, the the most important app for the 21st century is humanity itself. And, you know, coming from a technology background and working on making companies incredibly successful, I realized that we have to get back to our humanity in how we treat ourselves and how we treat others. So yesterday, I had the most amazing conversation with someone who I never ever imagined I would connect with. And at the end of it, she said to me, just let me know, and we’ll do a we’ll do a podcast together. And if you want to get other people, let’s do it. And, you know, I’m being guided and advised to go find the influencers, and I’ve taken it to a different level of the people that are influencing the people that I know would resonate with the books, which is very different, because I’m not looking at it from an audience perspective. And I think that from a speaking perspective, I’m really starting to think differently about how I approach this, because I am not, you know, a billion dollar company that I worked for before I am, you know, just little old me here, a little speck in the universe. And so how could this, this, you know, tiny little person, get out there and be able to open hearts and minds that are ready to be opened or play with or, you know, like, you know, my dream is like that we get to play and create together? And because I don’t have your answers, because I don’t know you I was just writing about it this morning, or editing. You know, that, you know, we’ve got to stop telling people how to how to do things when we don’t know who they are. And we’ve got to really understand our power source. And so everything that I’m writing or putting in these books I’m practicing, and when I don’t, the universe kicks my ass, like you won’t believe. So. I think for me, the marketing pieces is really something that you and I have talked about a lot, which is relationships, trust and community. And being able to be trusted in someone else’s community is one of the things that I’m seeing is really important, rather than saying, oh, you’re an influencer, here’s my message, just put it out. It’s no, it’s like, how do our messages intertwine and interconnect, so we can have a bigger influence in the world. And I’m asking a question, like yesterday, I think I threw this person totally off when I said to her, how can I help you? And then it went quiet for like a like, a couple of seconds. And she said, You’re so sweet. I said, so what do you mean, she goes, Well, this calls about you? And I said, No, no, this calls about us, and what we can create in the world. And I think I think that’s the opportunity is when you know, this is what you’re doing Tim here, from what I see too is building community. And when more of us come together, and we don’t have to compete and we could lift each other up and say, Hey, I know somebody who’s great for this. And, and not feeling like I missed out of something because that’s that interconnectedness and support that we can create in the world. And we could write new stories. And that’s what I’m here for.

Tim McDonald 18:49
I one thing I think that I’ve been finding too, is it’s a common theme amongst everybody that I’ve talked to so far about just that support in that community and helping each other out. And it’s becoming more and more clear that it’s there. It just nobody really talks about it. You know, and I love being able to shed that light on that. And that’s why I’m not focused on like, all the blueprints and the, the secrets and you know, it’s more about Who are these people? How did they get involved in this? What have they learned along the way, so that anybody wanting to get involved can see that there’s not one path. It’s so diverse and so different. Um, so you know, if you could go back and knowing what you know now, and talk to your younger self when you’re first getting involved in speaking. What advice would you give yourself?

Ayelet Baron 19:47
Don’t wait so long to let your voice out. You know, I mean, I was on a on a call on Friday with a bunch of friends that I went to the Amazon rainforest with And one of them was telling me that she’s doing these webinars with, you know how to look appropriate on zoom. And, you know, she started going through all the steps. And then she looked at me at my little box, and she said, Now Ayelet, you should be doing blah, blah, blah. And I just looked at her and I said, Now, you know, me, and being appropriate, I said, I’m on the friends and family, zoom, I’m sitting on the sofa. I don’t, I don’t, you know, I’m, I’m not the appropriate one to bring in all the time. Because, you know, if, if some of us don’t start breaking the rules, when it makes sense. And when it’s healthy, not not just casually, then you know, we’re all going to be the same and how boring is that our education system already, you know, is failing, because it puts everybody in the same direction. And, you know, when you’re in kindergarten nursery, you’re encouraged to tap into your imagination. But once you start getting until elementary school, you’re told to shut it off. And, and to be like, you know, like everyone else. And so, you know, there was a point in my life until I started really seeing the world for what it is, and in healthy eyes, that I started walking away from how things are supposed to be in what was accepted and what was not accepted. Because I started to know what it was for me. So I would give my younger self that advice, but I’m not sure she would understand it. Because I think she would have had to go through all the things, all the amazing times the wounds, the traumas, you know, all this stuff that we all go through. And so you know, and and it leads you back to here. So I’m grateful for even though some of them were heartbreaking, and still are, I’m just grateful for all of it. But I think I would love for for young people to know what’s what’s healthy and unhealthy for them. And not to buy into that this is the way it’s supposed to be. And you know, find our own rhythm and our own harmony, to be able to follow it. Because I think that is what kind of in inspires ourselves. And when we’re inspired, we’re on fire to inspire other people.

Tim McDonald 22:22
This has been wonderful. And I know I can keep talking to you forever. But what let people know, you know, where they can find you how they can learn more about your books. And I know that even if you’re not out speaking as much right now, because you’re writing, you’re sharing a lot of that writing. So where can they find you and connect with you.

Ayelet Baron 22:44
So the first thing you need to know, you don’t need to know so much how to pronounce my name, but you need to know how to spell it. And if you spell it, you could find me everywhere I think. And so it’s Ayelet it’s a-y-e-l-e-t the last name is Baron because Ayelet is a very common name and in some places. So the last name is spelled b-a-r-o-n, and you could email me at Aleyet27@gmail.com. That’s my eternal age. You could find me on Twitter ayeletb on medium as well, I ayeletb. It’s mostly ayeletb in most places unless it was taken, because it is a popular name in some cultures.

Tim McDonald 23:28
Oh, well thank you so much for being a guest and I’m sure you have your will have your information about your upcoming books,

Ayelet Baron 23:35
I’m sure listed on those places, you can go to Amazon book, Our Journey to Corporate Sanity, and my book series will be coming out in the fall of 2020. Thanks, Tim. And it’s called Fuck the Bucket List. The first book is called Fuck the Bucket List for the Soul Discover the Wonder of You.

Tim McDonald 23:57
I can’t wait. I’m looking forward to it. So thank you so much. Ayelet and thank everybody for tuning in and watching and if you are new to the end of the program at the end, I always stop the YouTube Live broadcast but I keep my guest on and record one question with them that only goes out to our email subscribers. So if you haven’t already subscribed, hop on over to speaking dot business. That .com it’s not business speaking business and join our community and sign up for the email list over there and you will be getting weekly answers that you aren’t going to find anywhere else so stay tuned and we will see you soon.